“Mean what you say and say what you mean.” A saying I hear frequently but few actually do. Either individuals are fearfully people pleasing or low self-worth with a desire to appear important creates a vicious cycle where people speak or do things that aren’t really in alignment with the true individual they are on a daily basis. People don’t say what they really mean or really even give much thought to what they are saying. A conversation will start out with “It’s funny how…” yet they don’t think the situation is funny they are referring to something irritating to them that causes frustration. So what they really mean is “It’s so frustrating that…” because let’s face it we aren’t looking for someone to say they find it funny, we’re looking for someone to validate that they understand or agree with our point of view. Personally I’ve found that frequently the trouble isn’t always ALL me, though I’ll agree sometimes it is, instead the individual is projecting traits of themselves they dislike onto me yet the real trouble lies within themselves. So if it’s actually their issue why pick it up as if it’s mine because it’s not, even if I may have displayed even a hint of it in the past it’s not me. So, no thank you, I’m not going to accept it nor will I be able to influence the individual to release it so I’ll just let it be. Harshness isn’t authentic it’s just bullying, there’s always a way to share a differing opinion without being brutal. Love is gentle and kind not abusive. If I won’t allow someone to beat me physically why would I allow someone to mentally or emotionally beat me or belittle me; truthfully nobody should allow that. We all have struggles in our lives and often they are plentiful but sometimes we appear to be on easy street and just as we don’t want people to make false assumptions we also shouldn’t falsely assume we understand all the facets of someone's life. We shouldn’t have an over inflated sense of ego but we also shouldn’t be completely defeated. Find the value in yourself and if you can’t find it grasp hold of the value others see in you. Accept your flaws and try to better yourself but don’t allow anyone to devalue you.
What you don’t know
©2015 Helena C
There are secrets you wouldn't understand and don’t know.
The struggles I face they help me grow!
The ones I didn’t choose yet I’ve had to face,
Sometimes all alone and meant to be at my pace.
You think you know of all my pains,
Yet I do not speak of the awful chains.
The chains that held me; to keep me down.
The ones you placed on me to help me drown.
Yes, today I know the sins I had shared;
With a world that left me so utterly alone and scared.
I choose to look forward and continue to fight; a fight you are unable to believe or see.
The precious crimson blood that washed me clean, He shed His blood for me!
A price that for all mankind including myself was paid;
And at His feet my burdens have been laid!
Each day I reach to attain new heights;
I'll keep reaching although others may try to blur my sight.
I fall so often, yet I’ll complete this race!
I’m not perfect just saved by God’s amazing grace!!
20 Things Authentic People Do Differently
August 17, 2015 by Power of Positivity
When you meet authentic people living through their soul, and not choosing the scripted life that society tells us we must live, it almost feels like a part of you has become liberated, too. People living authentically show us that we can live by what ideals WE feel most drawn to, instead of those already set for us.
Granted, it does take a lot of inner work to understand who you truly are, beyond the limitations and boundaries that others insist we abide by, but the journey is truly worth it once you begin to see yourself clearly.
Are you living authentically or not? These signs will help you decide, and maybe invite you to find yourself a little more.
Here are 20 things authentic people do differently:
1. They voice their opinions clearly and firmly, even if others may not agree.
People who march to the beat of their own drum are used to others disagreeing with them; however, this doesn’t stop them from living the life that feels most fulfilling in their hearts.
2. Authentic people choose a career path that resonates with them, not one that everyone else believes is best.
They know that by doing what they love, instead of doing what pays the bills, they have unlocked a huge part of what it means to follow your bliss. They simply cannot spend a large part of their life doing something that makes them feel dead inside.
3. They bring their own energy to the world, instead of being influenced by others’ frequencies.
People living authentically can honor and respect others’ energies, without feeling affected by them
4. They don’t fear taking the path less traveled in life.
They feel comfortable taking their own road, even if they have to venture down it alone for a while
5. Authentic people have fallen in love with themselves, and wouldn’t want to be anyone else.
They have mended their wounds and treated their insecurities, and now know the bliss of truly loving themselves
6. They feel so comfortable with themselves, that they give others permission to be themselves, too.
They make others feel free without having to say a word. Their energy speaks for itself.
7. Authentic people do things their way, and usually don’t follow the crowd..even if it means not having as many friends.
They probably spend a lot of time alone, but they have learned to love their own company and really get to know themselves.
8. They don’t take comments or criticisms about themselves personally. They know that others may not like them, but as long as they love themselves, that’s all that truly matters.
When you love yourself, the whole world shifts its winds in your favor
9. They seek out friends and partners who value deep conversations and an emotional connection, not gossip or sensational news.
They just don’t have the energy for meaningless, hollow relationships any longer. They crave life-changing, beautiful relationships built on love, respect, and compassion.
10. Authentic people keep a positive outlook on life, even if they find themselves in tough situations.
A positive mind = a positive life.
11. They listen more, and talk less. Those living authentically know there’s much to be learned in silence.
Authentic people don’t usually like to gab too much about themselves. They would rather learn from others’ experiences.
12. Authentic people usually have some sort of daily ritual they follow, such as meditation or yoga, in order to remain centered and in touch with themselves.
Quiet time to connect with themselves is very important to them.
13. They love with all their heart, and never hold back how they feel just to keep others comfortable.
They aren’t afraid to offer their love to people, even if it means they might get hurt in the process.
14. Authentic people have a lot of self-confidence; they don’t hold back who they are.
To free yourself, you must be yourself.
15. They don’t wish anything bad on anyone; they truly want everyone to thrive in life and become the best versions of themselves.
They love everyone, because they have cultivated it within themselves.
16. Authentic people have moved past their egos, and live harmoniously with all life on Earth.
They don’t have to fight for their place here; they move through life with ease and grace.
17. They find beauty even in the most humble of places.
They know that your perspective determines your perception, and constantly work on balancing their own energies and creating a positive mindset.
18. People living authentically will never stay in a bad situation, even if leaving it means marching into the unknown.
They love themselves enough to get out of a negative situation, no matter how comfortable they once felt there.
19. Authentic people allow others to have opinions without getting offended by them.
They can tolerate others without their egos wanting to get the upperhand.
20. They see people for the souls that lie within, and hardly even notice people for their personal appearance any longer.
They notice people’s hearts and character before their physical appearance.
I'm a wife of 20 years to a husband that consistently chooses to love me despite my flaws and a mother of 3 wonderful, loving and giving children. I have 6 babies waiting for me up in Heaven. I'm imperfect, often broken and learning; you will see many aspects of what makes me the person I am throughout this blog. You will find no condemnation from me. I have my fair share of problems and battles, I win some and lose some but by God's grace I'm continuing in the good fight. I'm attempting to live life authentically and I enjoy the many blessings God has given both in happiness and pain. I don't have any formal education in Biblical Studies and I don't claim to be an expert. I'm just sharing experiences and lessons I am learning or trying to learn as I go through life.