Sent to Pastoral Services

I sent a message to Pastoral Services at the hospital hoping maybe they could look into things for me and get me an answer.

On October 30, 2017 I was admitted and induced at 13w6d after learning our baby's heart stopped at 13w2d. We declined genetic testing because we were advised that we would not receive remains back for burial. We were assured that we could take our baby home with us but at the last minute during discharge we learned they had taken our son to pathology by mistake instead of the morgue and denied us his body because we lived out of state. Thankfully Sister continued researching for us and contacted me November 2, 2017 to let me know the hospital would release our son’s remains to us. We named our son Ean Rigel and he was buried in a cemetery close to home on November 4, 2017.

On April 2, 2018 at 10w2d pregnant I went in for an ultrasound and discovered our baby had no longer had a heartbeat and only measured around 8 weeks. I am still waiting for my body to acknowledge the miscarriage and was advised if it went too long I would need a D&C. It is important to us to be able to bury our baby we have named Riley Ember. I’m afraid just as we would be denied remains for genetic testing we would be denied remains after a D&C. Waiting for my body is taking an emotional toll especially so soon after our last loss and I fear leaving home because I’m afraid I may lose our baby’s body down a public toilet. If I required a D&C would we really be denied the remains for burial or could they be obtained by a funeral home so we could bury our baby?