I don’t wait to announce pregnancy because I want to celebrate the life of my baby no matter how short or long it may be. I appreciate the prayers received for myself and baby during pregnancy and needed the support after the losses. The magical 12 weeks is false, Ean was 13w2d when his heart stopped. Women need support and be able to share.
My Missing Peace
October 22, 2018 · My losses are something I have spoken of a lot about because I believe it is something worth talking about but after seeing a post telling someone to wait until 12 weeks to announce their pregnancy, I had to speak out for all the women/families out there.
There seems to be this rule that we should wait until 12 weeks to announce our pregnancies to make sure we are passed the 'safe' stage :( I am still unsure why this is (One thing I have learnt through all of this is there is no safe stage ). Is it because in 2018 we are still telling women that a miscarriage is something they should deal with alone or is it us as a society that is so uncomfortable with loss that we prefer not to hear about it? Have we not spoken about it for so long that we have no idea how too?
Well I was waiting, I was waiting to post my announcement! That post never came I found out I had lost my baby at 9 1/2 weeks. I told the people that knew, that were close to me but still so many people didn't know. I didn't know how to face the world when my baby had just been taken from me. I lost my closest friends at the same time and felt so alone. All I wanted to do was scream from the roof tops my baby was here!!! I wish I had announced my pregnancy and told people my baby existed. Even though I was early our baby was so loved. I announced I was pregnant to my now husband at our family photos so I could capture his reaction, this was going to be our announcement but I waited and it was the announcement that I never got to share. A baby is loved from the very beginning and if you want to tell the world on the day you found out go ahead because if you do happen to be the #1in4 you should not have to go through it alone! #breakingthesilence
You can all announce when ever YOU want to and if that means waiting then that's your choice! But this 12 week rule needs to stop!!! Women shouldn't have to explain why they want to announce before then and society needs to STOP telling women they should suffer their miscarriages in silence. I have had enough of it!
We must allow those who want the extra support if something happened to be comfortable to announce their baby!
I am calling it....
The 12 week rule is COMPLETE BULLSHIT, announce when ever the hell you want to, to who ever you want! It may be just family and close friends or it may be the whole world but don't let society make you feel like you should hide or grieve alone.
I'm a wife of 20 years to a husband that consistently chooses to love me despite my flaws and a mother of 3 wonderful, loving and giving children. I have 6 babies waiting for me up in Heaven. I'm imperfect, often broken and learning; you will see many aspects of what makes me the person I am throughout this blog. You will find no condemnation from me. I have my fair share of problems and battles, I win some and lose some but by God's grace I'm continuing in the good fight. I'm attempting to live life authentically and I enjoy the many blessings God has given both in happiness and pain. I don't have any formal education in Biblical Studies and I don't claim to be an expert. I'm just sharing experiences and lessons I am learning or trying to learn as I go through life.